mother, baby, woman, Motherhood Triggers

When motherhood triggers previous trauma and how to deal with intrusive thoughts and confront your fears.

Motherhood Triggers. This week the lovely ‘L’ writes a very personal story of her life. From pre babies to post babies. It’s hard for some of us to understand what many others have or are going through and this piece reminds us to be kind and take some time out of your day to get to know those around us. As many of us are holding back secrets which are harming them and could use a friend.

baby, birth, healthy baby

Body shakes after Giving Birth (C-sections and natural birth) – The side effect we all forget to talk about!

It’s funny, I’ve written and spoke about the traumatic experiences I had with both my babies C-sections but I’ve never mentioned this side effect. I think it may be because it only lasted a few minutes and compared to everything else seems hardly worth mentioning.
But I think it’s important to give you ladies the heads up about body shakes after giving birth as I found it very scary and didn’t know what was happening to my body.
Enjoy and let me know if it happened to you.

woman, child, face mask

How connecting with other mums online helped me get through the loneliness of a global pandemic

Connecting With Other Mums Online is something I never thought would impact my life so much, but here I am 15 months after setting up my The Swan Effect Mum Instagram account and writing about how these lovely online strangers, almost all mums themselves have helped me in more ways than I can explain.
If you’re a mum and feeling overwhelmed or alone, then please make the jump and set yourself a mum account and meet 100’s of likeminded women.

woman, pregnant, pregnancy

My Experience of ICP (Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy aka Obstetric Cholestasis) and 5 Charities and Support Groups to Contact

You’d be forgiven if your first thought reading this was ‘what on earth is ICP, I’ve never heard of it.’ That was very much my reaction whilst sitting in the Maternity Assessment Unit (MAU) early on a July Sunday morning.

So just to clarify, Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy aka Obstetric Cholestasis is a potentially serious but uncommon liver condition that affects 1 in 140 pregnant women. With ICP, the bile acids that usually flow from your liver don’t flow properly and start to build up in your body instead.

Here’s my story.

woman and child inside car

How to Make Travel A Learning Experience for Kids With 9 Easy To Follow Tips

How To Make Travel A Learning Experience.
After months of lockdown and travel restrictions, many of us are ready to start planning to explore again. Ready to plan what to when we can get out there and see what we’ve been missing. Plan to visit new destinations. And rediscover all the places we’ve been missing.

We know traveling is learning. Yet, how do you get the most out of every trip? These tips for before, during, and after your vacation will ensure your family is learning from every journey.

baby, face, girl

Caesarean Awareness Month – Here Are My 2 caesarean Birth Stories

As a caesarean birth mum twice over, I have been meaning to write this up for a long, long time. The after effects of my first caesarean birth are still with me now (albeit they are slowly fading with every passing year) and I want to write everything down before I forget anything.

My experiences were unique, as is every birth regardless of how, when or which delivery was given and I believe that writing your thoughts, emotions, frustrations and facts allows you to empty that space from your head and keep them locked into your computer so that you can visit, if ever needed.

Here’s my story…

father, daughter, holding hands

Sexual Anatomy are Words to teach Your Children And Shouldn’t Be Viewed as Awkward

There are so many words used for the word vagina and penis nowadays that it’s become slightly embarrassing or awkward if we hear a child say these words rather than the cute nicknames many of us parents have introduced to our children.

But that is what most of the specialists and experts are urging us parents to do. There are many reasons why sexual anatomy should not be awkward and here I write about a few whilst also trying to understand the sexual words to teach your children to stop later confusion.

baby, newborn, child

3 Things New Mothers Don’t Expect Once They Bring Baby Home

If you’re anything like me, pregnancy changes your social interactions.
Friends start asking how you’re doing more often and complete strangers strike up conversations as though you are actually friends. This typically happens for months as you move through the second and third trimester.

Between freezer meal prepping with family, weekly OB appointments, a baby shower, and people asking “when are you due?” you may feel this is your new normal. Is it?

Today our guest post is Kelly, who will be discussing what new mothers don’t expect once they bring baby home

Coping with postnatal depression

Coping with Postnatal Depression during a pandemic and 5 charities that you can reach out to for support and Help.

You are not alone. So many new mums are out there coping with postnatal depression. Here we look at the symptoms, we have a chat with a new mum coming out of the other end of postnatal depression and also provide a list of charities to reach out to if you are struggling with your mental health after having your baby. The pandemic has made pregnancy and motherhood harder than normal and there is no shame in reaching out for help.

mother, kid, newborn

Simple preconceived parenting styles gone wrong. Have yours changed?

I had so many ideas of the type of parenting styles I wanted use when becoming a mum for the first time. I had aspirations of being that mum who would have patience, instantaneous ideas for fun games and activities and have time for one-to-one speech development, toilet training etc. There was also a list of things I swore I wouldn’t do too. I was going to be a firm, but fair mother. Oh how naïve I was.

Tommee Tippee Perfect Prep Machine Review

Tommee Tippee Perfect Prep Machine Reviews – 2021

Here I am using this beautiful machine for the second time around and I honestly can’t rate it enough!
If you, like me are unable to breastfeed or you make the decision that formula feeding is the best route for you and your baby then have a read of these Tommee Tippee Perfect Prep Machine Reviews and get yourself one today!

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Chub rub – 3 Ways us bigger women can avoid the Chafe Rash and discomfort This Summer

Summer is a time of joy, socialising and beautiful clothes. As a larger women myself I have always found summer tricky, fashion wise as although there is an abundance of beautiful dresses designed for our curvier frames it doesn’t quite stop the inner thighs rubbing. This is also commonly known as chafing and more recently, chub rub (I myself don’t really like this term but it seems to have been a huge success for businesses, so I’ll go with it for this post).